High School Musical..!!! :D

I know it looks crazy to find a post on High School Musical on blog of a 26  year old girl...er woman i mean..!! I mean its for teenagers below 16 so what am I doing watching that movie or writing a blog about it..!! But that's how I have always been. Watching stuff that I like most no matter what kind of audience it is for. And believe me it is interesting to watch even Dora, the Explorer only if I am sitting with my niece. As a child me & my sister together used to watch all the cartoons, not that there was much more interesting thing to watch either. I kind of grew up in family where TV was meant for may be information gathering or pure entertainment. It was not a time pass. Nope. Which means no mega serials or cinemas..!! Simple things like cartoons, musical shows, or probably the comedy sections. 


Well looks like I never grew out of that child mind...!!

Craving to write..!!

I am in a writing mood today... that is though I have no flow of words or thoughts, I just want to write.. type something in to my blog...So I sat down in front of my laptop and opened the easiest site to write in to.. twitter.. I thought to myself "ok few tweets into it and your urge will be off"... but no ! it is not so... I still feel the urge to continue... I was wondering what I should I write about? Should I write about people? subject? controversies? philosophy? climate/weather? then realised am not good at any of these... so why not write about some thing i know best or atleast know the most about .. MYSELF!! :)         

Weird thing called marriage

My Marriage was on 29th Jan, this yr..!! Its a bit surprising... I still haven't come to terms that i am married... i have seen it happen... to my sisters, brothers, cousins, friends... all of them getting married, having children etc.. At each of those occasions I used to imagine how my marriage would be..! How my partner wud be.. Even when my dad started searching for a guy for me I didn't realize the seriousness.. cos generally it is a long process in arranged marriages...so i thought i had lot of time to be prepared... 

Now as I sit at MY HOME and write ... I look up and don't see the tv stand (filled with wedding pics of my sisters) but I see a pic of me and my husband standing together in our reception dress hanging on the wall... it kind of changes my reality... I AM married.. and I am no longer in India but am sitting in some foreign country.. I have set up my home here with my husband.. and I would have children here.. watch them play, study & learn, grow-up and marry ...!! Its weird..! I remember writing in my diary a month after my marriage "I cant believe I have been married for a month now" but to tell the truth I cant believe it even now after almost 3 months of marriage... 

But I cant imagine my day without my husband coming home and asking me for a coffee either.. Its like we both have settled into a life where we are part of each other... and have come to that state of mind without even realizing... I have accepted his presence in my life... and he, mine...!! It feels gud to be able to curl up against someone... have someone watch u as you water your plants... be with some one as you clean the house... have some one who will listen to you crib whole through the night... It is hard to find a person with whom you can stay awake the whole night and talk your hearts content...  but best of all, know that no matter what that person is gonna be there whole through your life..!! He is your responsibility and you are his..!! :) 

Many say that arranged marriage doesn't make sense... i mean how can you give your life to some one you have no knowledge off... a complete stranger ... though i had talked to my husband for about six months after the engagement before marriage over phone, its still not like falling-in-love and knowing the person and marrying... I had only met his mother & father ... his extended family but never him.. "the one guy with whom I would spend my whole life....".. Though I knew in heart that i had made the right decision by saying yes to him... I still used feel scared.... fears & doubts .... but on the night of our marriage as I went to sleep with him by my side ... i knew for sure that i had found my love..!! :) and believe me it is such a relief...

At the end of the day no matter what kind of marriage it is.. I think it is the trust that is shared that is most important... it is what makes a marriage bliss..!! It makes the love grow and nourish..!!           

EQUALITY..!!

Recently I heard an argument (I mean overheard.. yeah!yeah! I know its wrong..still..) about principles. A aged mother was telling her daughter about life & teachings of Sri Ramanujar. While doing so she mentioned that although spreading vaishanvism was his main priority he was famous for his thoughts on equality. As she mentioned this her daughter pounced on her and asked "Amma, if those were his teachings, dont you think that you are being hypocritical by calling yourself a follower of Ramanujar". And before her mother could even gain her standing, she continued, "I mean look at you & people around you, you all are friends with people only in your caste. Not one is married to a person from another caste. How are you talking about equality?"

The first thing I felt on hearing it was like, "Wait a minute, back up! what the heck is she talking about? What has marriage or friends got anything to do with equality?". To be frank, I know nothing about Saint Ramanujar's teaching. And the only things I know about him are that he is a vaishnava saint & was responsible for bringing up vaishnavism when it was dying out (you know... history classes... back from school days!! ringing any bell??). So I really didnt have much idea of what form of equality was the old mom talking about. But I did understand what her daughter was talking about: Principles or should I say, Basic human Principles.

There was a time when this very principle of equality was not understood or accepted. But it is not so anymore. You can not have inequality in a society where co-existence is mantra for survival. In such a place, what is this woman talking about friendship & marriage as forms of equality?

Dont take me wrong, to me equality is not just a survival tactics, to me it is part of being a human, a better human, so I am speaking from that point of view. What does the idea of marriage mean? Do you marry someone to project your values/principles? do you choose your friends based on the caste? I mean do you think like "Ah! Good! This guy is from another caste, I will become friends with him."?? If you do that then you are not making friends nor are you propounding equality. You are just making a group to boost your own ego.

To me (and I believe the most understood definition too), Concept of Equality is: respect for people & their traditions. For that any principle a person may have, are only for betterment of the person as a human & not for evalutation. Friendship & Marriage are brought about by circumstances & not based on principles. A person who has married to propound equality is only lying to himself...

Now back to the Daughter's argument. The only words that irked are marriage & friends. May be she forgot that 'Accepting everyone as they are' is equality. Just because your spouse happens to follow someother God or has different traditions doesnt mean you are a follower of equality. It just means you love the person enough to not let the differences bother you. Are you able to spread that love for everyone around you, not just friends, every single person around (you know to even a person like the beggar who comes dragging himself in to the train..!!) you then you are following equality for equality is not based on religioin or caste but on basic human empathy.

If even a well educated woman such as this daughter is not able to understand this simple concept then I think it is hightime for our society to start working on its basics.

My Forum..!!

It is so easy to write in a diary than it is in a blog. I mean in a diary you know that the words you write are yours to keep. There is nobody to comment on it, frown at the grammer, grimace at your point of view or just chuck the whole thing out of the window with a "what a waste?!!". You can pour your heart out in the diary & not have a single worry. But not so in a blog.

May be you can say that it is both positive & negative of blogging. I mean it is not for those weak-hearted who fear rejection, not for those who value their privacy & definetely not for "sooo-reserved that I still hide behind my mom" people either. I mean comeon, you are writing on a public forum and you expect privacy. Who are you kidding?!!

Blogging is the best medium for anybody/nobody to express his/her opinion, taste &/or just write whatever comes to mind. It is the place where we are left to wander in our thoughts & get completely lost in the labyrinth of our minds. Which gets me to my point of starting this blog and aim of this post.

This blog, my dears, is basically a shadow of my thoughts, the collection of all my successful/flop ideas, the center for all my idiocy to come out, the place where I can argue to my heart's content without someone screaming "Enough!!" at me. For to me blogging is something very precious, wonderful & unique. I am not blogging for money or for passing my time. This blog brings out my passion, my everyday observations out into public forum. So guys, those of who are tired of hearing me talk, u can take to reading me (atleast you get to do it at your own pace :)) & those of you who have neither heard nor read my writings before, Welcome to my world!! :)